The concept of “resource” has recently been very often discussed in different contexts. And, of course, psychologists also do not ignore this topic, since in the course of their work they have to clarify, together with their clients, how they lose and replenish their psychological resources, what is a resource for them and what is not, and, finally, how in general feel your own fullness or emptiness.
These are not as simple questions as they might seem at first glance. As we age, we begin to think more and more often that some events definitely fill us with energy, while others drain us. After talking with some people, we feel cheerful and energetic, and after talking with others, we can hardly move our legs. Something imperceptible happens in such communication that completely de-energizes us. The difficulty is also that the resource is not universal at all. He is extremely individual. For one person, opera is a flow of powerful energy, for another it is torture, since it is not easy to sit in the theater for several hours. For one, bungee jumping is an adrenaline rush, an experience that makes you feel the brightness of life. For others, it is a psychological trauma, after which a considerable resource will also need to be spent on recovery.
There are also people who are “unlucky at all.” It would seem how you cannot feel your own emptiness! However, for those who, from childhood, were taught to endure discomfort, ignore their own fatigue, ignore disgust, it is difficult not only to determine what kind of resource they need, but in general it is difficult to understand whether they need it at the moment. Here, a huge amount of work is needed, not only in awareness and understanding of one’s individuality, but also in regaining sensitivity to oneself and the skill to treat oneself with care.
These are common topics in therapy. Unfortunately, they often arise, since our rhythm and lifestyle often deprive us not only of our resource, but also of our sensitivity to the topic itself. Sometimes it really takes time and serious work to teach a person to take care of themselves and make up for their own emptiness.